Hi… It is so nice to see you again. As I promised, I am meeting you here to share some of the magic secrets I have learned at Doorway to Recovery. Would you like to know what brought me there? Well, I wandered in the front door seeking some much needed direction with my then 23 year old grandson who was serving yet another prison sentence. I carefully lugged in a large cauldron of simmering, toxic emotions, known as my mind! The situation had reached a crisis level and it was slowly eroding away my emotional foundation.
The fire under this simmering pot was fueled by guilt. The guilt was constantly being stroked by inappropriate thoughts, which led to inappropriate and irrational behaviors. It finally boiled over, affecting my very being and daily existence. I was slowly being poisoned by my own thoughts and actions. I was stewing in my own juice! It was violent, sad and crippling!
Further, I was the World Champion Enabler, which I had honed into a fine art! I grew up with an alcoholic father and Grandfather, and alcoholic step-mother and stepfather, 7 of my 9 uncles were raging alcoholics and eventually my dear mother became drug addicted. Her drug of choice was Percodan! They all, every one of them, died from a direct connection to their addictions. And yes, I am unfortunately all too familiar with the blood, the guts, the mud, the tears, the beer, the fights and abuse, more martinis and lots of Percodan! These things, and worse, always keep close company with addiction.
In the middle of all this chaos and depravity, I contracted a nasty virus which left me paralyzed from the neck down. I did eventually recover, but only after months of painful and lonely rehabilitation built around the philosophy of “never give up, never quit, never say you can’t, and I can fix anything!” How about that for perfect training for a lifetime of enabling! I proved I was a star pupil… teachers pet! The clouds were gathering… the perfect storm was approaching!
Fast forward to many years later and there I was standing on the doorstep of Doorway to Recovery with a heavy load of baggage. I had showed up for the 3:00 performance of the Mark Burchell Magic Show! I was filled with elation to have found this resource as I fully expected, it would be here, that I would finally uncover the one thing that I must have overlooked that would be the magic to “fix” everything, including my grandson! I reasoned that this magic show would pull that information and instructions out of a hat, and my eternal and destructive search for a “fix” would finally end!
Needless to say, I got the shock of my life… but I was not disappointed! The magic proved to be nothing at all like what I was expecting… illusion was transformed into reality. What a relief… and one of the secrets of this magic show was how to spell “relief”… it is spelled B-I-B-L-E! Read it and live it! I also learned some of the tricks to a more balanced life… I gained my emotional eyesight back and it came with an excellent GPS system to navigate life and all the perils. I also gained a magnificent personal bonus, a gift of a lifetime, but I will share that particular information when we meet again. It is a story in and of itself!
The following is some of the magic I would like to begin to share with you, more will follow! This is just the beginning. I have found this to be of great value… it is tucked into my brain for future use! This magic appeared, seemingly out of nowhere during the magic show… abracadabra… it will work for you too!
+ Never make a decision based on guilt!
+ Never postpone joy!
+ Emphasize the part of life you can control – lifestyle and mental attitude! You can only control you!
+ Don’t do anything until you are asked, and then decide if you can do it, should you do it, and do you want to do it?
+ Love should not be crippling. Some detachment is a healthy, neutral place to be.
+ Fear and worry are not the same. Fear is put in us by God and needs to be addressed. Worry has no purpose and can be set aside. We create our own worry.
+ If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at will change.
+ Open your heart, unconditionally, and let Christ in! Seek and follow His word… enjoy the magic!
More magic tips will appear in our next meeting. The joy is in the seeking… the misery is in the denial!
Until we meet again,
Boom Boom LaRue
This is clearly a from-the-heart, yet no doubt difficult, story for Boom Boom to decide to share. Clearly her time spent with Mark Burchell has indeed been magical for her. There is obviously help to be found here. Her honesty is inviting.
Knowing “Boom Boom” as well as I do, I can attest to Doorway helping her immensely in gaining insight into the difference between guilt and love, enabling versus truly helping, and taking care of others by only first taking care of herself. What she has learned at Doorway has been truly invaluable. Susan
Wow, thank you for sharing your personal story….Boom-Boom is in the Room-Room! Can’t wait to hear more…
Wow, thanks Boom Boom for sharing your story! Looking forward to our next meeting!
Way to go Boom Boom. I have always said you should write an advice column. I have listened to many of Boom Booms words of wisdom from her journey through life and value them all. Keep up the good work…
Pay attention to the Boom Boom behind the curtain! When all the sparkles, smoke, magic lights, and rationalizations disappear, the truth starts to emerge. When love makes you feel guilty, burdened, or sad, is it love at all or just being manipulated? Keep talking, Boom Boom, I’m listening.
Thanks for ones marvelous posting! I genuinely enjoyed reading it, you could be a great author.I will ensure that I bookmark your blog and will come back very soon. I want to encourage yourself to continue your great posts, have a nice weekend!
I love Boom Boom! I love her story, and I love God, who has brought out her story for others to find true freedom. The BIBLE is where it is at for me too. 2 Corinthians 3:17 tells me, “For the Lord is the Spirit, and wherever the Spirit of the Lord is, there is freedom.” Keep walking in that freedom dear Boom Boom and I can’t wait to read more.
Good stuff, Boom-Boom!
Keep it coming!
Wow Boom Boom, that was a very inspiring story. I will use your advice in my daily routine. Looking forward to the next adventure!
Dear Boom Boom,
Your story is truly inspiring and I have learned many new lessons and morals for your unique yet riveting story. Can’t wait to hear more from you!
Boom Boom. I was privileged to meet you in church last Sunday. You are a special person. What you are sharing on this blog is a blessing. I am thankful to have met you and will continue to follow the blog. God bless you!
J. Steven Veith
Thank you for sharing. I am looking forward to reading more.
Beautiful. It is difficult to share the ugly things in our lives, but you have done it beautifully. And by sharing, we lighten our burden and that of our friends and acquaintances.
Truly inspiring! God is great and has definitely moved us in a new direction.
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Hello His Explanation…….Very glad to have you as a passenger on my train…..stay tuned…..more to come. Thanks for your interest and I hope you continue to like what you read. Sending good thoughts your way! Boom-Boom